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Don’t waste your time. For thoes left-overs
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Some guys have been dating different women for years, but they still can not find the right one. To make matters worse, they only blame their fate or bad luck and never try to learn from their experience. Just blaming others does not help you. There maybe many reasons from outside yourself, and the people you dated may have some problems. But in order to learn, you need to check your attitude, your mindset, and most importantly, the goal and standard you set for your future love and wife. When you feel tired or unhappy in the struggling of searching for love. Ask yourself the following questions: Firstly, is the one your are pursuing is the right one for you? Finding your love based on your feeling is not wrong. Unfortunately, one-sided feeling can never bring you a lover. It happens that you may love the wrong person, who are not suitable for you. It’s not your fault, most of us are finding love based on our feeling, however, if you are always barking up the wrong tree over and over again, you are wasting your time. If you have feelings for a special someone, you can try to pursue her. But do not let your feelings make you blind. If you are looking for your future wife, you have to make it clear that if she is suitable to be your wife? Dose she have the same goal in life with you? Does she share the same values with you? And sometimes, similar educational background and family background also should be taken into consideration. Feelings are not equivalent to love, and more often than not, feelings lead you to the wrong person. Sometimes you may have feelings for those, who have nothing in common with you. If you are smart enough to realize this, quit all your aimless effort, and begin to find someone else. By doing so, you can save you a lot of time. Secondly, are you expecting too much from your future wife? Even few people would like to admit it, some of you are expecting too much from your future love and marriage. Maybe you can raise many other reasons why there are so many left-overs, but being very picky can be a very important reason behind the left-over phenomenon. You may deny that you have set a very high standard for your future wife, but the woman you are looking for may be just too good to be yours. When you go all out to pursue her, she does not show some interests in you. That’s why you are tired and unhappy when you are after her. Before you want to get to know someone else, think about it: do you really know yourself? Evaluate yourself in an all-around way, including your advantages and disadvantages. And you should know what the one you are after really need. Know yourself and set a feasible goal of your future love can help you to find your mate sooner. You meet someone you love, but she does not love you back. When someone who loves you come to you, however, you do not love her. If this happens over and over again, you really need to think about the reason behind it. Maybe you have the charm to attract someone, but your feelings just lead you to the wrong person. My points here took guys for example, the principle also applies to those left-over women, who are struggling to find their Mr, Right. Different people have vary different understanding of love and marriage. Therefore love and marriage can be various conceptions for different people. And even for one person, these conceptions may have different meaning for him/her when he/she is in different ages or stages in his/her life. But one thing that is almost certain about love and marriage is that all of us will get married one day. Some of you may nor agree with what I said here. But the argument I made here are based on my own experiences. I just want to share my experiences with you guys, hopefully, my advice can help someone. If you can understand them, or have some similar experience with me. I am happy to know that I am not alone and can be understood. But if you cannot understand my points, the only simple reason is that you never know what I have been through. [ Last edited by 志樂激昂 on 2012-1-30 at 19:09 ] |
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